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Sunday, 12 February 2017

Let's talk blogging with anxiety...

Hi, Everyone!

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This is going to be a long post so grab your favourite beverage, a snack and please get comfy...

Something I noticed not long after I started Blogging was that there's a lot of other bloggers who suffer from some form of anxiety and how supportive the majority of the blogging community is. This made me feel like I wasn't so alone. I've met some great bloggers who suffer from anxiety and I realised that a lot of the feelings I have surrounding my anxiety are shared with others. It makes my day if I am scrolling through Twitter and I see a blogger friend has accomplished something such as managing to go out, which sounds simple, but if you have anxiety it's really not. I also love how supportive we all are if somebody is really struggling too.

I get very annoyed when I read comments like "Not another Blogger/Youtuber with anxiety!" It's not exclusive to a select few, it's actually a lot more common than you might think. Perhaps the reason you are hearing more about it nowadays is because people feel they can talk about it! The more people who speak up and spread the word the more it becomes less misunderstood. So instead of thinking that everyone and their auntie is copying each other, perhaps those who mock should instead admire our bravery for speaking out! (That goes for any illness that people speak out about whether it be mental or physical)

I had an idea for a blog post about bloggers with anxiety, how our anxieties effect our blogs, but also how blogging can make it better. And of course, if you're reading this and you have anxiety, it will hopefully remind you that you are not alone!!

 I put a call out on Twitter for Bloggers that suffer from any form of Anxiety to answer some questions for the post I wanted to write. Below are some amazing bloggers who not only want to share some of their story with you but they also have words of wisdom to share as well. I am very grateful to them for taking part, and I ask you to please check out their blogs once you've read this post!

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I thought it was only fair that I also answer my own questions, so I have gone first:


1.) Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc...
There are two sides of blogging for me. It has actually helped my mental health by giving me something to focus on. I started my blog last September and it was a great distraction after a horrible summer filled with depression and anxiety. I've gained a tiny bit of much-needed confidence by 'meeting' other bloggers online and putting myself out there. However, a lot of what triggers my anxiety such as stress, deadlines and pressure seem to go hand in hand with my blog. Also, I worry that because my writing isn't amazing I shouldn't be doing this. I doubt myself a lot. But for me, the good out ways the bad, or I wouldn't be doing this!
 
2.) Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
 I do. But I worry a little about getting grief from those that don't understand, but that's across the board, not just because the subject is anxiety. Every time I post I am worried someone will leave a hate comment or write something about me. But that's my issue, no one has ever given me reason to feel like that so far. I do worry that among those reading my anxiety posts is one of those people I mentioned above who assume that all bloggers and youtubers are faking anxiety and other mental health issues for attention. But there is always that voice in the back of my head saying 'This could help someone, post it!'
 
3.) Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
 Don't let the feeling of being doubted put you off talking about having anxiety or anything for that matter. Mental Health should be talked about. It needs to be talked about. You never know who you could be helping not feel so alone anymore, and that is an awesome thing! Blogging really has helped me a lot. Anxiety is personal to everyone, we all have different triggers. It can be helpful to identify them and work from there.

Name: Jaye Rose
Twitter: @jayerosex
 
1.) Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc...
I do find myself getting overly anxious and berating myself if I don’t promote my blog or post often. I often feel envious and anxious that I’m not part of wider blogging communities and that I won’t ever sort of edge my way into those circles.
 
2.) Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
 My blog is very, very personal and I’ve been a lot more honest on there about my mental health than I ever thought I would be but I feel like my anxiety issues aren’t just a “big part of my life”, they are my life. My whole adult life has been built around my anxiety. The only part I have never been open about is what fuels my anxiety as I don’t want to be a target for trolling.
 
3.) Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
 Meds never worked for me personally as I felt they just masked the issue instead of dealing with the root cause but I know many people who have felt better with the help of medication. DO NOT SELF MEDICATE. I use to drink heavily as a way of blocking out everything but found my anxiety increased tenfold and I’d torture myself for days afterwards as I couldn’t remember everything I’d done. I’ve recently discovered yoga and although I still haven’t mastered the “stilling my mind” aspect of it, I have found its done wonders for undoing the tension I build up in my muscles every day!
 
Name: Alessia
Blog address: www.theblondpond.com
Twitter: @theblondpond
 
1.) Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc…
Blogging events are really hard, especially since, if I talk to someone, they bring up all the things that I’m doing wrong. I know I write well and I sort of am confident in writing for “real publications” (interestingly including other people’s blogs!) but it’s being really hard to get into a frame of mind that would have me take blogging more seriously than just a hobby and being around people who are successful at that means I have to face the fact I’m not there, why I’m not, whether I want to and, if not why I don’t, if it’s a legitimate reason or fear of the pressures that come with it, or of losing authenticity etc. Also I re-read and edit everything for way too long and still hit publish feeling like it’s not good enough why am I even doing this? At time of writing this very sentence I have re-read my responses to this interview already 3 times...
 
2.) Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
I don’t really talk about it. If I mention anything on the blog or on social media it tends to be in passing, as part of my experience of life as a whole. I would like to do something to raise more awareness of things and I have some plans to do it in the near future, but while I admire anyone who blogs specifically about such issues I get more anxiety at the idea that whenever I open up about something then people would reduce me to that and even patronise me so at present I’m more comfortable treating it like just another thing about me, something that I have to live with in the same way I have to live with keeping my blood sugar in check or not having meat on Fridays. It’s sort of hoping that if I don’t make a big deal about it then people won’t make a big deal of it, but it is quite a big deal and I wish I didn’t feel like I have to dismiss the role it plays in my life for the sake of it not taking it over.  

3.) Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
Never ever ever feel ashamed if you need help, or if you need help again after you’ve had therapy before, or if you feel like nobody understands what it’s really like to live with anxiety and that it’s not “just worrying”, especially not just worrying about the kind of things it’s normal and healthy to be worried about. It hurts to feel misunderstood and like you can’t be open with others, and if really you hit a wall like this just get together the courage to reach out and find people who understand what it’s like to be around, there’s a lot more people than you think walking the journey alongside you :) (I mean, you are reading this blog after all!). It’s frightening, especially as you’re connecting with people over something that makes us feel really vulnerable, but it's worth the effort. I wouldn’t be here writing this if I hadn’t done it. Remember, you are valuable, you are loved, anxiety doesn’t define you and anxiety cannot ultimately win if you keep fighting. 
 
Name: Yasmina Magdy
Twitter/Instagram: @julyjournal 

1.) Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc…
Blogging is my hobby and as much as it gives me something to concentrate on, it does come with added pressures especially when I am feeling anxious. I'm also questioning the content that I put out on my blog because I want it to be a place on the internet for people to look back on and love. Blogging events make me so nervous but at the same time I love meeting new bloggers, especially local ones! I always feel nervous about missing a blog post hence why I try and schedule my posts a week ahead of time. 

2.) Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
I have talked about anxiety on my blog previously but I want it to be a happy place for people to go to and rather than talk about it, I want to find steps that have helped me and can hopefully help others. I am always worried when I post personal content on my blog because I don't want people to judge me or to not understand where I am coming from. A lot of the time I just bin the post before publishing as well.
 
3.) Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
 Honestly, I would just go for it! It can be just the outlet that you are needing. Blogging gives you something to concentrate on. Don't concentrate on the numbers, just do it for your own happiness. Without blogging, I would have nothing to pick me up or to concentrate on when I am feeling anxious or upset. Whenever you are feeling anxious about blogging just remember - it's the camera and you. No one is watching you, and think of it like your online diary of events. One day you are talking about your favourite lipstick and the following day you are sharing your favourite shoes. Take it one day at a time. 
      Name: JustGeorgeJ
Blog Address: https://justgeorgej.wordpress.com/
Twitter
: @JustGeorgeJ_UNI
1.)   Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc...
No, having anxiety does not affect any aspect of my blogging. I started my blog, for me more than anything. At first it was just about documenting my journey and then it slowly turned into me writing help and advice articles and sharing my experiences and my theory was, even if it helped one person, that’s something. I post as of when I can, as much as I can. Plus, my blog has never gone ‘huge’ so I don’t have to worry.

2.)    Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
Yes, since being diagnosed with anxiety I have started talking about it on my blog. I do not worry about those who don’t understand judging me as that’s not something I should worry about. Having anxiety does not change who I am, it is not a negative thing, it is part of me and that is fine. If people don’t understand it, then fair enough. As long as they take the chance to understand, then that’s all I can ask.
3.)    Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
If you have anxiety and you are reading this just know you are definitely not alone. There are a lot of people who suffer with anxiety and don’t suffer in silence. Don’t be scared that people will judge you – the right people won’t. There are plenty of paths you can take – all it takes is 10 seconds of insane bravery to start along that path.

Name: Tessa
Blog address:
www.grumpymum.co.uk
Twitter: the_grumpy_mum

1.) Does having anxiety ever effect any aspect of your blogging? Such as the pressures of posting regular quality content, blogging events, ideas for posts etc...
I actually find blogging does the opposite of causing anxiety. The rhythm of tasks to complete and checking them off is very soothing to me. It’s simple, routine and I understand it. There’s nothing that is required of me I can’t predict or control and control is very important to me.


2.) Do you talk about having anxiety on your blog? If so do you ever worry about others who don't understand judging you?
My blog is only 2 months old and as yet I haven’t written about anxiety but I am intending to do so in the future. I don’t worry about people knowing I have anxiety issues as in my experience, more people do than don’t.


3.) Do you have any advice for anyone reading this blog post who also suffers from anxiety?
Work out what your trigger is. It could seem that your anxiety is set off by random things. For me it could be trains, Feeling ill at work, Staying in hospital… The link was a lack of control of my immediate environment. Once you know exactly what your trigger is it’s much easier to work out ways to avoid situations which cause a trigger and develop a coping strategy for when you can’t.
 
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Thank you again to the brave Bloggers who agreed to answer questions for this blog post. Please do check their blogs out and give them a follow!
 

 

2 comments:

  1. LOVE this post so much :) thank you for sharing :)

    Rachael xx.
    theteacozykitchen.blogspot.co.uk

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